Lapsi ~ Auspicious Rajasthani Recipe with Unforgettable Nirmala Sipani

by on August 13, 2008


Beautiful Rajasthani lady Nirmala Sipani

Nirmala Sipani 1969-2008

This post is in poignant memory of beautiful Nimmi whose loss is a deep void in our hearts that is going to be so hard to fill. Here is a touching poem by her young niece, Meetha Jamad:

Memories divine remind me of you
For our love was boundless, all know that’s true
Your love, your care still keeps me alive
Truly painful though without you is this life
For my lessons, my learnings have all been from you
My world has revolved around you and just you
Another word for love is truly your name
Your words, your voice still flow in my vein
I wish this wish of my heart comes true
If there is a next birth, may I see my mother in you
by Meetha Jamad


Memories Nirmala  Sipani

I still can’t get myself to believe that the next time I attend a family wedding or function, the beautiful and gorgeous Nimmi won’t be there. All of us used to wait with bated breath to see her. She had impeccable taste and graciousness was her middle name. Her cheerful and affectionate nature was the icing on the cake. These were qualities she imbibed from her Papa, Mr. Gyanchand Jamad. She was her Papa’s doll and he was her best friend.


It is with a shock that I suddenly realize the usage of past tense in writing about Nimmi. It is simply unfair that at six o clock every evening, the phone doesn’t ring at her parents home any more with her cheerful voice saying hello – a ritual she maintained however busy she was, however far away she was.


I have known Nimmi since she was 16. My first impression of her was – simple and sweet. Over years, that impression remained with just one more added adjective – stunning.


Her maiden name was Nirmala Jamad and that changed to Nirmala Sipani when she married. But for all of us, she remained Nimmi. She was my husband’s niece and the bond I shared with her was special. It is strange and speaks highly of her that each of her bhabhis, and her innumerable aunts and cousins felt the same way. I remember how she looked like a pied piper with her nephews and nieces trailing after her whenever she visited.


More than anything else, what I learnt from this young and lovely person is to take life in one’s stride. She never had a bad word to say about anyone. In fact, whenever she sensed any tension between people, she would always take extra effort to ease things for them. This made her truly special because most of us are either busy bodies or on the other hand, afraid to interfere. She was loving and childlike in her simplicity.


A good hostess who loved to cook, her favourite dish was Lapsi, a sweet dish. Whenever she visited her mother’s home, Lapsi would top her humble wish list to her mother, Mrs. Sushila Jamad. It was from whom she learnt to be a perfectionist at whatever she did. Lapsi is considered an auspicious preparation, made on most festive occasions in our homes.

Lapsi Recipe

Here is the LAPSI RECIPE as given by Sushila Jamad in the memory of her daughter, Nimmi. May her soul find peace and find joy wherever it sojourns.



  • Broken wheat – 1 cup (readily available in the size of sesame, but it is uneven)
  • Jaggery – 1 cup, crushed (check that the jaggery is sweet and has no taste of sourness)
  • Ghee – 1/2 cup
  • cardamom powder and slivered nuts


  1. Heat the ghee and add the broken wheat. Lower the flame and roast the broken wheat. This step requires patience because the broken wheat has to be roasted for 12-15 minutes until it turns a deep golden brown. The amazing thing is that only one side of each grain turns brown. The other side remains white.
  2. Meanwhile, heat 2 cups of water in another vessel and add the jaggery. Bring to a boil.
  3. Strain the jaggery liquid to remove any dirt or scum. Add the strained liquid to the roasted broken wheat. Carefully and gently stir with a wide ladle in one direction ensuring that no lumps are formed. Continue to stir unless all the liquid has been absorbed.
  4. Garnish with sliced almonds, pistachios and crushed cardamom.

Like most auspicious preparations, whenever we make Lapsi, we first offer it to the family deity and then to family members or guests. Serve hot.


auspicious recipe

All of us simply love the photograph above which shows Nimmi’s three elder brothers gazing at her adoringly at her wedding. Their expressions take my breath away. With Rakhee (the festival celebrating the bond between brothers and sisters) around the corner, my heart just breaks for them.


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